THE IMMENSE COMFORT OF THE NON-SEDUCTIVE STATE

How NOT to be an exhibitionist!

• There is a sweetness to the core of women, one that nurtures, encourages, sees through walls, intuits,  foresees, senses deeply the troubles of others, especially loved ones. This is not to say that all women are deep empaths... but many do sense things below the surface. I most certainly do!

• Then why are we swimming in a sea of vulgarity and lust in 2024 USA?? Why do we seem to worship the exaggerated and aggressive female, the “Cougar”, the "mean girl", the pushy-shovy lady on the corporate ladder, just like rapacious men?  There is sexuality and there is lust and these, based on my nearly 72 years of life in 2024. are opposite spectrums.  Lust is an unsatisfied state, always hungry, always on the hunt for some new excitement to fill the empty and wounded  and hidden, sorrowful heart. In fact, in my youth, I used to call this "a hunger that never gets filled."   I was there myself, long ago and many of my friends of youth were there as well. I do not suggest emulating this. 

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• Lies, outright deceptions, peer pressures, giving honor to the base instead of the holy, this is the core of this madness.  I was a terrible cynic in my youth long ago, boiling with anger that filled to overflowing with terrible enveloping sorrow that did not get addressed. My Mom died overnight in 1966. My brothers' death in Vietnam in 1968 was also a core of this grief. Rebellion and anger grew out of this small war that so searingly affected my Boomer generation.

• We have had at least 70 years of this utter plague of lust upon us and only the goodness of God can dislodge and cleanse this awful turmoil. I stumbled my way out of this plague and I know it can be done.  I am still picking up the pieces of my broken-ness at nearly 72. This is much of what I write about on my Blunt Oregon Girl Substack.

• I am actually seeing sparks of hope, revealing the tiny green shoots emerging from decades of teaching the debasement of both women and men, in the guise of "freedom".  This gives me a place of refuge amidst the storm.

•  The sexual revolution, in which I heartily and unwisely participated in my youth in the late 1960's and early 1970’s, is perhaps unravelling or at least fraying around the edges in 2024.

• I am recently seeing wonderful articles here on Substack and Notes, which present a humbling and workable alternative to "Hook up culture", which in any presentation, is a disaster for both young women and men alike. 

  Simply the "post-revolutionary" suggestion that jumping into bed with strangers is not that great of an idea, that is one spark of HOPE! The rampant teaching, the "let it all hang out" and "do anything you want and be FREE" is a classic lie of the devil.  As a Boomer, I lived it, I was devastatingly wounded by it in my own youth. Since I experienced the reality of the darkness of sexual sin, I can honestly speak of the realities of this. Because of my sorrow, I can see through the deception.

• Sexual freedom is a marketing machine. I am also heartened to see more than one person here on Substack and Notes, beginning to write about encouraging young men and women to ask for help from parents and from trusted Elders, to guide their maturity and toward men choosing the right wife and women choosing the right husband. I am not naive... but I have seen from personal experience, the utter debacle of "freedom" in the hook-up culture. I doubt it is that much different than the chaos I myself went through, as I had at least 50 sex partners in the decade between 18 and 28, 1971 to 1981. Just the physical realities of that stupid behavior were enough...not to mention the utter mental-emotional-spiritual chaos that was woven through all that. Sexually transmitted diseases (gonorrhea, crab lice, trichomonas), painful and unpleasant sex, on both the receiving and giving end of broken hearts,  two abortions in 1973, utter inner chaos, financial lack... this is not a fun freedom.

• Seeing quiet and wise and measured discussions on Notes, about the value and wisdom of encouraging youth to slow way down and actually ask parents or trusted Elders, to help young men find a worthy wife and young women to find a worthy husband, how refreshing and humbling. This is NOT scolding or haranguing! This is a slow and measured simmering. While the slower path is not easy, it is much preferable to rushing headlong into multiple sex partners. There are serious repercussions! This is not fun, children!

• I do not think this is simple in 2024....but the alternative that has devastated so many lives... is worse and why not consider that the old ways just might work?

  For myself, I am the polar opposite of an exhibitionist. Revealing myself in a vulgar manner to what I call " the profane of the world " is utterly abhorrent to my spirit.

• I am not speaking of " letting yourself go". I do not mean repression nor do I mean dour or dowdy or the refusal of caring for yourself.  Even I as an Elder woman, wear a bit of color on my face, earrings, scarves, etc. I care for my skin, I walk, I spend plenty of time "flopping on the couch with Papa", meaning I hang out with God and His Son, asking, pouring out my sorrows, seeking help and counsel and listening as deeply as I can and writing down what God says to me.  He is amazing! He knows my heart and how to refine me, step by step.

• I am speaking of a realm of self respect. Not being in the constant "seduction" state is refreshing and calming. Youth have been taught blatant lies about their ability to simply slow the train down and even step off for awhile. I am single and I do not dress sexy, not ever. I dress respectfully and for comfort for my own spirit, not for "attraction."  That is seduction, which to me, should remain only between husband and wife . 

• As a woman of God and follower of Christ, I can humbly remind youth... that God actually CREATED SEX. He created it for the continuation of the human race and also for the close and tender fellowship between husband and wife. God is not against pleasure and comfort. He is against debauchery, which does great damage to human beings. 
  

• You want to be a rebel??? Try putting the brakes on, try friendship and fellowship first, try a soul- blessing experience by partnering with some wiser than you,  including parents who love you, friends tried and true, and most importantly, God and His Son Jesus Christ, Who will never lead you  in the wrong direction!

  Wendy Elizabeth Williams   Sept. 27, 2024

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